Why You Might WANT To Hire a Coach [Ep. 95]

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This is the eat well.

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Well live well podcast.

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I'm Lisa Salsbury.

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And this is episode 95.

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Y you might want to hire a coach.

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Welcome to Eat Well, Think Well, Live Well; the podcast for women who want to lose weight, but are tired of counting and calculating all the food.

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I'm your host, Lisa Salsbury.

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I'm a certified health and weight loss coach and life coach, and most importantly a recovered chronic dieter.

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I'll teach you to figure out why you are eating when you aren't hungry, instead of worrying so much about what you are eating.

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Hello.

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So good to talk with you today.

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Thanks for tuning in.

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I hope that your weather is getting just as beautiful as mine is.

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My garden is really taking off.

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I got all new tomato cages this year, so I'm really hopeful.

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That I can contain the jungle that I have had the last couple years.

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All right.

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This episode is all about.

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What coaching is and kind of what it isn't.

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The first thing I want to say is no one needs a coach.

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But you might want one.

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This is something I heard from a coach I trust and admire.

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And I have thought on it several times in the last few months, because many, many coaches say almost the opposite.

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They say everyone needs a coach.

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It's like having a dentist.

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Everyone needs a life coach.

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But I wanted to talk to you today about why you don't need a coach.

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But why you might want one it's it's totally different.

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So I often say my clients lose weight, but I'm not going to say that you lost weight because I was your coach.

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You did it.

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You did the work, but coaching might just be the exact right tool for you.

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Nail guns.

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Don't build houses.

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But they are great tools to use.

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Could you build a house without a nail gun?

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Sure.

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Probably.

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I don't know, not a construction worker, but you could use a hammer, might be slower.

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You could use screws and drills and all the other things that bind wood and sheet rock and all the house, he things together.

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There are lots of tools in the tool belt.

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When you build houses.

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The same is true when you're trying to lose weight.

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You could join a gym that hopefully has a nutrition program.

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You could find a weight loss partner, friend, someone to keep you accountable and to report to you could download an app and follow the instructions there.

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Although this is my least favorite way.

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You could buy a book, follow that you could get a journal and write down everything you eat.

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There are tons of tools and useful resources for you to lose weight.

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Coaching.

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Is just another tool.

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The nice thing is that coaching actually encompasses a lot of those other tools.

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My coaching is a nutrition program, accountability workbook with journaling pages and a place for your food journal.

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And your thoughts about food and cravings and all the weight loss things rolled into one.

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So that's reason number one, why you might want to hire a coach because it's a tool that you just want in your tool belt.

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Reason number two.

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You might want to hire a coach is you might like who you are when you are being coached.

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I like who I am when I'm being coached.

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It's kind of like brushing my teeth.

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I mean, sometimes you could skip brushing your teeth, right?

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Your oral health is not going to greatly suffer.

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If you fall into bed without doing it sometimes.

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But do you like that?

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Or do you like the way it feels when you brush your teeth and wash your face and then get into bed?

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You may just like who you are and how you feel when you're being coached.

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I know I've mentioned this one before and I don't want to hang all of my coaching on this one client's comment, but it just hit me so profoundly.

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Like, yeah, this is why I love coaching.

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She said during one of our sessions, I'm becoming an emotionally stronger person, which makes me happier than being a thinner person.

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She has lost, I think, close to 40 pounds.

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I'm not sure.

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I, um, I've lost track, but this is what I'm talking about.

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She likes who she is because of the work she has done with coaching.

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You might like who you are and how you show up in the world.

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When you're working with a coach and you implement the things that we talk about.

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Another client recently said, I have also switched my top priority.

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From the number on the scale, over to the feelings I want to have throughout the day.

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Because those feelings are what we're actually chasing.

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When we think of ourselves at a goal weight, I can cultivate those feelings now instead of waiting to lose all the weight.

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I think this really illustrates the idea of liking who you are when you're being coached and focusing on intentionally creating your life instead.

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Of only focusing on the scale weight.

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Which I think can happen when you're just simply doing a diet.

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Third reason you might want to hire a coach is to check your blind spots.

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I had a client recently say that I helped her reach her goals by reflecting back the truth.

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Of what I could not see.

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I thought that was really interesting.

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Where do you think your blind spots are?

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Where are you thinking that you're like, quote unquote, doing everything right.

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Or maybe you aren't noticing what thoughts are really getting in the way of moving forward or moving past your cravings.

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The thing about true blind spots is that most of the time, you really truly don't know what they are.

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Often a client is telling me something, either as fact, or as some trivial side note.

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And I'm like, ah, there it is.

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When I reflect that back to them so they can hear, Hey, this is what you're thinking in that situation.

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It's often really surprising.

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This is similar to when you're writing an essay for school and you're reading it.

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And editing it and thinking it's fine.

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And then you read it out loud to someone else to see what they think.

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And that's when you hear the grammatical error.

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Sometimes our thoughts sound very.

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Normal, if you will inside our head, but then when you're speaking them out loud telling a coach what it was, you were thinking in the moment of the overeat.

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I'm like, oh, there it is.

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When you're telling the story of why you overate, I'm able to hear that thought error in there and then just help you see it as well.

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Okay.

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That's it.

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Just to sum up reasons you might want to hire a coach.

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Number one, it's a great tool to have in your tool belt of weight loss.

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Number two, you like who you are when you're being coached or you like who you are becoming as you implement the tools in the program that I teach.

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And number three, you're interested in what your blind spots might be.

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Coaching helps you consciously decide how to live your life, but you still create that life.

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If you say I couldn't have done it without you, after we're done coaching, then I've missed out on helping you understand the power.

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Always lies with you.

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I understand.

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That's my client's way of saying thank you.

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And I can just say you're welcome, but I hope I always show them.

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How they are the creator of their results.

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And I can still not believe that they couldn't have done it without me.

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People don't need to hire me.

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You don't have to have a coach to lose weight.

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But people who get the most out of it just really want one.

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They want to work with a coach.

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If you've been listening to the podcast and your intuition has been nudging, you like, Hmm.

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I wonder what it would be like to work with a coach.

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And she sounds like just the kind of person I could talk to.

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You are probably a person who wants to hire a coach.

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Really the best way to find out if coaching is going to work for you is to try it, try some coaching.

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Schedule a time to talk to me directly and test it out.

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Schedule a free food planning session so we can meet on zoom for 45 minutes and really get started on your weight loss.

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Hope to talk to you soon.

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As always, thanks for listening and sharing the eat.

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Well think.

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