Aug. 9, 2023

The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Weight Loss [Ep. 55]

The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Weight Loss [Ep. 55]

NEW! Free food planning session! Only 10 spots available in the next 4 weeks. But when they’re gone, they’re gone! I know you struggle with deciding what to eat–let me help. You’ll leave this free 50 minute, 1:1 session with a plan of exactly what to eat to start losing weight. 

SCHEDULE HERE!

Your brain lies to you. Did you know this? Often your brain will lie to you, and it’s usually to get you to eat more, so that the dopamine will keep on flowing!! 

But these lies are not helpful to your weight loss.  

I’ve identified 5 lies we tell ourselves about our weight loss that seem especially pervasive in my clients. I think you'll find your brain tells you these too. 

I’ll give you some ways to eliminate these from your thought patterns and help you identify why these lies aren’t helping your results. 

Link to episode 31: Accessing Past Diet Experiences to Help Decide What to Eat Now--LISTEN HERE

Don't miss this!
-->Join the Group Coaching Program Waitlist HERE
 
More from Well with Lisa:

More from Well with Lisa:

Transcript
WEBVTT

00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:00.930
This is the eat well think?

00:00:00.959 --> 00:00:02.370
Well live well podcast.

00:00:02.430 --> 00:00:05.459
I'm Lisa Salsbury, and this is episode 55.

00:00:05.759 --> 00:00:08.580
The lies we tell ourselves about weight loss.

00:00:12.609 --> 00:00:19.510
Welcome to Eat Well, Think Well, Live Well; the podcast for women who want to lose weight, but are tired of counting and calculating all the food.

00:00:20.140 --> 00:00:21.699
I'm your host, Lisa Salsbury.

00:00:22.089 --> 00:00:27.750
I'm a certified health and weight loss coach and life coach, and most importantly a recovered chronic dieter.

00:00:28.359 --> 00:00:34.299
I'll teach you to figure out why you are eating when you aren't hungry, instead of worrying so much about what you are eating.

00:00:36.395 --> 00:00:37.655
Thanks for joining me today.

00:00:37.655 --> 00:00:42.994
Before I get into the topic today, I want to tell you about a limited time offer.

00:00:42.994 --> 00:00:45.784
I am making to you listeners on the podcast.

00:00:46.354 --> 00:00:50.704
I am opening up 10 spots on my calendar in the next four weeks.

00:00:50.734 --> 00:00:53.465
And actually we're a week into this project.

00:00:53.545 --> 00:00:55.104
And four spots down.

00:00:55.104 --> 00:01:00.865
So there's actually only six spots left, but this is a food planning session I am offering you.

00:01:00.865 --> 00:01:02.454
So I know you're probably thinking.

00:01:02.875 --> 00:01:08.905
That losing weight doesn't work for you and that you wish you could, but you just can't figure out what to eat.

00:01:09.295 --> 00:01:10.704
And what works for your body.

00:01:10.734 --> 00:01:16.584
You're not sure, like maybe what diet plan to follow and how that might fit in with the thought work I teach.

00:01:16.944 --> 00:01:20.215
So I am setting aside four 10 of you.

00:01:20.215 --> 00:01:22.015
And like I said, I already have four booked.

00:01:22.525 --> 00:01:30.625
To jump on a call with me and get your meals planned in order to get you started, I just want to get you out of confusion.

00:01:30.655 --> 00:01:36.775
So come to this free food planning session, it's a one-on-one session, just you and me.

00:01:36.775 --> 00:01:39.745
So it's totally personal for exactly what you need.

00:01:40.135 --> 00:01:44.185
You'll leave, knowing exactly what to eat to start losing weight.

00:01:44.454 --> 00:01:47.724
So just so we're clear, this is not a webinar.

00:01:48.025 --> 00:01:50.424
This is a session just for you.

00:01:50.424 --> 00:01:58.015
So make sure that you're in a place where you can take notes and really think through what we're going to talk about.

00:01:58.405 --> 00:02:07.284
I know the intro to my podcast says, I'm going to teach you to figure out why you were eating when you aren't hungry, instead of worrying so much about what you are eating.

00:02:07.284 --> 00:02:17.485
So this session might sound like it's a little counter intuitive to what I teach, but what I have been finding lately, With clients and women that are messaging me on Instagram.

00:02:17.965 --> 00:02:20.875
Is that they're just getting stuck in the wet first.

00:02:20.905 --> 00:02:22.284
What should I eat?

00:02:22.314 --> 00:02:22.884
Why.

00:02:23.604 --> 00:02:28.134
Am I hungry for this food at lunch, and then we can dial in, oh, okay.

00:02:28.164 --> 00:02:30.294
We're not setting ourselves up for the day for breakfast.

00:02:30.294 --> 00:02:32.425
So we, we just need to dial in that.

00:02:32.485 --> 00:02:33.025
What.

00:02:33.534 --> 00:02:37.375
we're four, we're even ready to figure out the emotional eating piece.

00:02:37.675 --> 00:02:41.664
So we're just dialing in what foods you want on your plan.

00:02:42.145 --> 00:02:46.495
I also will be gifting you the workbook for my jumpstart, your weight loss sessions that I used to do.

00:02:46.495 --> 00:02:49.435
So those were 90 minute sessions and ran 2 25.

00:02:49.465 --> 00:02:53.034
So you'll be getting a link to that in the email reminder.

00:02:53.395 --> 00:02:55.465
So be sure to download that and have that ready.

00:02:55.735 --> 00:02:58.675
When you are, uh, coming to the session.

00:02:59.094 --> 00:03:04.224
So we'll use you some of those worksheets during the call and then some you can do on your own.

00:03:04.224 --> 00:03:06.444
So go and schedule right away.

00:03:06.525 --> 00:03:17.375
it probably looks like by the way that there are more than six times available, but what's going to happen is that When 10 get booked, then the calendar will turn off like there's limits on the calendar.

00:03:17.375 --> 00:03:19.294
So that only a certain amount can be booked.

00:03:19.655 --> 00:03:21.905
Per week and then a total amount.

00:03:22.235 --> 00:03:28.724
So, It does probably look like there's more available, but don't wait to get yours on the calendar.

00:03:29.145 --> 00:03:33.314
And I'll be honest if at the end of the call, I think you're a good fit for my coaching program.

00:03:33.314 --> 00:03:37.474
I will let you know, but the call is free for you Either way.

00:03:38.044 --> 00:03:40.414
All right, let's get to today's topic.

00:03:41.314 --> 00:03:44.465
I got to thinking about how last week I discussed with Jody Moore.

00:03:44.854 --> 00:03:47.074
That I don't know is always a lie.

00:03:47.375 --> 00:03:50.824
If you miss that episode, it is really great.

00:03:50.835 --> 00:03:52.514
Jody and I talked about.

00:03:52.875 --> 00:04:02.294
Several of the lessons I have learned from her over the years as she has been my life coach, I started with her one-on-one when she was a brand new coach.

00:04:02.534 --> 00:04:06.044
So you can go back and listen to that episode for the full discussion.

00:04:06.405 --> 00:04:16.274
On that one on why I don't know is always a lie, but it made me realize, and I got to thinking that there are several other lies that we tell ourselves in.

00:04:16.485 --> 00:04:17.144
Weight loss.

00:04:17.595 --> 00:04:20.084
And we don't mean to be lying to ourselves.

00:04:20.115 --> 00:04:22.694
It's just like when we say, I don't know, we don't really.

00:04:22.838 --> 00:04:24.517
recognize that as a lie.

00:04:25.117 --> 00:04:27.877
And these really are just a subtle thoughts.

00:04:27.908 --> 00:04:32.168
Sometimes you may not even realize you're having them, but I hear them.

00:04:32.648 --> 00:04:35.887
In my clients, when they're telling me a story, I hear them.

00:04:36.427 --> 00:04:41.288
You might be having these just periodically, but a lot of them are coming on a regular basis.

00:04:41.288 --> 00:04:42.817
So I have five.

00:04:43.177 --> 00:04:51.247
That I've recognized today, but I think I might have to do a part two of this episode because there are so many, but I didn't want it to be like an hour long.

00:04:51.247 --> 00:04:51.577
So.

00:04:52.117 --> 00:05:00.487
The first one is telling yourself that more of what you're eating is going to be more enjoyable.

00:05:00.908 --> 00:05:02.317
This is going to be fun.

00:05:02.557 --> 00:05:03.608
I should eat more.

00:05:03.637 --> 00:05:04.028
Right?

00:05:04.298 --> 00:05:15.668
So this one is sneaky because we usually identify emotional eating as like crying face down in a pint of ice cream or eating an entire bag of chips or cookies at the end of a long day.

00:05:16.387 --> 00:05:26.408
But I find that the most common emotional eat for my clients is eating past physical hunger or fullness cues that they have had enough.

00:05:26.947 --> 00:05:28.538
And the lie comes in.

00:05:28.778 --> 00:05:32.317
That if you keep eating, you'll increase the fun.

00:05:32.617 --> 00:05:36.098
Increase the pleasure increase the enjoyment.

00:05:36.848 --> 00:05:40.358
But the truth is that more of that food?

00:05:40.898 --> 00:05:43.418
Is not going to increase the pleasure of it.

00:05:43.807 --> 00:05:48.968
There's a point of diminishing returns that we often cross when we overeat.

00:05:49.387 --> 00:05:52.418
We are eating something enjoyable and delicious.

00:05:52.747 --> 00:05:55.298
And we get to the point of having enough.

00:05:55.687 --> 00:06:05.408
And if you stop there, you actually get the peak enjoyment because you've enjoyed the flavor and the textures or whatever else you like about the food.

00:06:05.858 --> 00:06:23.887
And you get the enjoyment of it, feeling good in your body of being able to get up and move around, go for a walk, do the things that you need to maybe go back to your desk, not feel sluggish, all of the perks that come with not overeating and feeling great in your body.

00:06:24.517 --> 00:06:44.197
Once you overeat that food, you start to decrease the enjoyment because you start to get digestive distress in some way, whether that's too full of a tummy or bloating, heartburn, just pain because your stomach is so full, you might have trouble sleeping or even wake up the next morning.

00:06:44.197 --> 00:06:46.867
Still not feeling great in your body.

00:06:47.767 --> 00:06:56.257
Add that to the idea that you are unlikely to be kind to yourself in this moment, you are likely punching yourself in the face with your thoughts.

00:06:56.557 --> 00:06:58.718
Saying things like you always do this.

00:06:59.108 --> 00:07:00.637
When are you going to learn to stop?

00:07:00.668 --> 00:07:11.127
And you're never going to lose weight, all of those kinds of thoughts that Contribute to you feeling bad about yourself and talking to yourself in a way that you would never speak to another woman out loud.

00:07:11.937 --> 00:07:18.478
Now you've turned an enjoyable food experience into an experience that's loaded with stomach pain and shame and guilt.

00:07:19.317 --> 00:07:26.577
See how more and more and more of that food doesn't actually increase the enjoyment of the experience.

00:07:27.538 --> 00:07:29.817
What if you just ate to satisfied.

00:07:30.237 --> 00:07:37.528
And you've got to remember that delicious meal without having any guilt about it without having any digestive distress.

00:07:37.588 --> 00:07:39.298
Wouldn't that be amazing?

00:07:40.468 --> 00:07:43.767
Obviously we can choose not to have guilt about overeating.

00:07:44.247 --> 00:07:46.767
I'm just telling you what typically happens.

00:07:46.798 --> 00:07:49.017
If we're not actively working on our thoughts.

00:07:49.617 --> 00:07:51.838
But I give this thought to my clients all the time.

00:07:52.048 --> 00:07:56.908
More of this food is not going to actually make this experience better.

00:07:56.997 --> 00:08:05.398
And of course, I'm talking about more being over and above your positive three on the hunger scale, more than your body needs in that moment.

00:08:05.997 --> 00:08:09.658
But we are using that thought when you are in the decision point.

00:08:10.137 --> 00:08:13.947
Of should I stop here when I feel like I've had enough?

00:08:14.637 --> 00:08:16.048
Or should I keep eating?

00:08:16.767 --> 00:08:22.257
That's when the light comes in, that more will make the experience of this food better.

00:08:23.028 --> 00:08:23.267
All right.

00:08:23.298 --> 00:08:24.137
Line number two.

00:08:24.798 --> 00:08:25.877
It's just a one.

00:08:26.925 --> 00:08:34.664
Again, this is a sneaky one because this lie is when your brain tells you so that you continue eating past fullness.

00:08:35.144 --> 00:08:42.345
Or it's something that comes in when your brain wants to eat something that's not on your plan, something you haven't written down.

00:08:42.914 --> 00:08:46.995
I first noticed this one with a client a few years back, that it kept coming up for her.

00:08:47.294 --> 00:08:48.284
During our sessions.

00:08:48.315 --> 00:08:50.054
So we decided to count up.

00:08:50.384 --> 00:08:55.065
The quote, it's just one meals that she had throughout the week or snacks.

00:08:55.634 --> 00:08:58.304
Or, you know, cookies, all the things that she was saying.

00:08:58.304 --> 00:08:59.144
Well, it was just one.

00:08:59.565 --> 00:09:03.975
so whether that was a particular meal at a restaurant or a cookie after lunch or a soda.

00:09:04.514 --> 00:09:10.095
And it turned out to be more meals than not that she found herself saying it's just one.

00:09:10.544 --> 00:09:15.884
Or sometimes it was, I don't do this often, which is kind of a separate one, but usually it was, it's just one.

00:09:16.575 --> 00:09:23.715
She realized that it was her brain, just trying to keep her eating and keep from experiencing any disappointment.

00:09:24.105 --> 00:09:25.455
Or any cravings.

00:09:25.754 --> 00:09:33.254
So she wasn't having the opportunity to process any cravings and learn how to feel those, because she consistently said, well, it's just one.

00:09:34.004 --> 00:09:37.965
And this is why it's just one is usually a lie.

00:09:38.115 --> 00:09:40.605
Your food journal is going to tell the tale.

00:09:41.024 --> 00:09:45.315
It's going to really come in handy here with the actual data.

00:09:46.424 --> 00:09:48.164
You know, I love a food journal.

00:09:48.164 --> 00:09:56.475
I love a 24 hour plan, but if you, even if you're not planning ahead writing down what you are eating is so, so valuable.

00:09:56.804 --> 00:09:58.544
It's just such valuable data.

00:09:58.934 --> 00:10:04.924
I always like to remind you that your own food journal is the most important nutritional study you will ever read.

00:10:05.434 --> 00:10:11.764
But when you keep an accurate food journal, you can use that as data and really look at how many times.

00:10:12.274 --> 00:10:19.174
You probably used this thought, like, if you see a lot of a single cookie here, a single candy here, a single bag of chips here.

00:10:19.174 --> 00:10:23.195
Like every time that you've been like, well, it's just one, it's just one soda.

00:10:23.764 --> 00:10:24.485
And.

00:10:24.764 --> 00:10:28.065
You can get really clear on how often this is happening to you.

00:10:29.054 --> 00:10:34.934
When you are planning one item, like you have one serving of cake planned tonight for dinner.

00:10:35.384 --> 00:10:39.735
That's not the same as eating off your plan and using the lie.

00:10:39.764 --> 00:10:40.634
It's just one.

00:10:41.174 --> 00:10:44.414
So, I'm not saying we can't ever eat these things, right.

00:10:44.414 --> 00:10:54.825
It's just that when the lie comes in wanting due to eat off plan, So that client and I turned this thought on its head by sort of changing the tone.

00:10:55.034 --> 00:10:57.284
Do you ever hear that tone in your thoughts?

00:10:57.284 --> 00:10:58.485
You can hear that.

00:10:58.485 --> 00:11:00.315
It's not just how we speak out loud.

00:11:00.524 --> 00:11:04.125
So when her brain offered the it's just one, like, come on.

00:11:04.125 --> 00:11:04.875
It's just one.

00:11:05.205 --> 00:11:05.534
Right.

00:11:05.924 --> 00:11:07.245
She said yes.

00:11:07.605 --> 00:11:09.434
It is just one.

00:11:09.434 --> 00:11:11.414
And so I won't miss it.

00:11:11.955 --> 00:11:14.445
This really helped her get on top of that thought.

00:11:14.715 --> 00:11:19.274
That lie, her brain was offering by answering it directly and saying you're right.

00:11:19.725 --> 00:11:20.955
It is only one.

00:11:21.554 --> 00:11:23.745
And so it's no big deal to skip it.

00:11:25.274 --> 00:11:25.754
All right.

00:11:25.845 --> 00:11:30.075
Number three, closely related to the it's just one thought is.

00:11:30.674 --> 00:11:32.355
I hardly ever get this food.

00:11:32.774 --> 00:11:35.024
Or this is a special occasion.

00:11:36.195 --> 00:11:41.654
Again, I want you to get really, really honest with yourselves and your calendar on this one.

00:11:42.134 --> 00:11:43.725
I find that.

00:11:44.024 --> 00:11:48.404
We use this so often that it isn't actually a special occasion.

00:11:49.034 --> 00:11:51.315
I had a client that used the special occasion lie.

00:11:51.345 --> 00:11:53.174
Every time they went out to eat.

00:11:53.565 --> 00:11:59.115
So we got really honest with her food journal and looked at her schedule and realized she was going out.

00:11:59.684 --> 00:12:03.404
At least one or two times per week, almost always a date night.

00:12:03.794 --> 00:12:08.865
And then usually at least one other time, that, that week for like fast food.

00:12:09.164 --> 00:12:11.054
There is nothing wrong with this plan.

00:12:11.085 --> 00:12:12.554
That is completely fine.

00:12:12.554 --> 00:12:15.044
I don't think you need to eat every meal at home.

00:12:15.585 --> 00:12:21.434
But is it really a special occasion to be at a restaurant if you're doing it twice a week?

00:12:22.215 --> 00:12:23.595
Define for yourself.

00:12:23.625 --> 00:12:25.245
What a special occasion is.

00:12:25.514 --> 00:12:28.725
Is it that something that comes around once or twice a year?

00:12:29.325 --> 00:12:31.845
Or once or twice a week, see the difference.

00:12:32.684 --> 00:12:42.394
She was really surprised when she realized this lie coming up for her, because she was like, oh yeah, no, it's not really a special occasion.

00:12:42.845 --> 00:12:45.845
And she didn't want to have that thought anymore.

00:12:46.205 --> 00:12:49.144
This just really helped her chains, how she was ordering.

00:12:49.595 --> 00:12:55.684
And we used the going out more as the break from dishes and break from cooking that she needed.

00:12:56.044 --> 00:13:01.235
And she started ordering food that tended to match more closely what she would make if she were at home.

00:13:01.235 --> 00:13:04.625
So things that would be typically on plan for her.

00:13:04.625 --> 00:13:14.945
She also realized she was ordering soda every time she went out because of it being that special occasion that her brain was telling her that special occasion thought, right.

00:13:15.605 --> 00:13:22.384
That was really interesting to her because she didn't consider herself a soda drinker because she didn't buy it to have it at home.

00:13:22.804 --> 00:13:26.044
She considered that she only ordered it when she was out.

00:13:26.134 --> 00:13:27.904
If it was a special occasion.

00:13:28.774 --> 00:13:32.014
But when she realized, oh, I'm actually drinking.

00:13:32.375 --> 00:13:34.205
Soda multiple times per week.

00:13:34.205 --> 00:13:41.315
She was like, I guess I am a soda drinker and this just gave her the opportunity to decide if she wanted to keep that.

00:13:41.674 --> 00:13:47.254
Or let that go, but it all stemmed from this lie of it been a special occasion.

00:13:48.251 --> 00:13:50.621
I noticed this one too, around special holidays.

00:13:50.922 --> 00:13:55.211
When you only maybe make that type of food at that time of year.

00:13:55.481 --> 00:13:59.381
So maybe it's pumpkin pie in the fall or fudge at Christmas time.

00:13:59.772 --> 00:14:05.111
But the truth is that those ingredients for those foods are available in the grocery store.

00:14:05.142 --> 00:14:06.282
You're round.

00:14:06.731 --> 00:14:09.792
We could make pumpkin pie for dessert this Sunday in August.

00:14:09.792 --> 00:14:10.392
If you want.

00:14:10.871 --> 00:14:13.451
I actually have a can of pumpkin left in my pantry.

00:14:13.451 --> 00:14:16.841
That's perfectly good, but I don't actually want it in August.

00:14:17.412 --> 00:14:20.231
Actually, I don't even want it in the fall cause I don't like pumpkin pie.

00:14:20.532 --> 00:14:31.631
So that's kind of a bad example for me, but maybe your, you know, like my crazy sister who could eat pumpkin pie year round, and she just likes the filling and makes it like a custard in a pan without the crust.

00:14:31.711 --> 00:14:43.951
But I seriously doubt she is ever like, oh, I can hardly, I hardly ever get this because she actually does make it whenever she wants, because that's the truth with this one, you could make most things year round.

00:14:44.251 --> 00:14:48.211
Even fruit desserts often can be made out of season with frozen fruit.

00:14:48.241 --> 00:14:53.822
I have definitely made a peach cobbler in the dead of winter with frozen peaches and it was delicious.

00:14:54.422 --> 00:14:58.442
So when you hear your brain offering you, oh, this is a special occasion.

00:14:58.442 --> 00:15:00.451
So we should definitely overeat this food.

00:15:00.751 --> 00:15:02.942
Because who knows when we will get it again.

00:15:03.631 --> 00:15:07.772
And by the way your brain doesn't actually say we should overeat it just as like keep eating.

00:15:08.131 --> 00:15:08.552
Right.

00:15:08.731 --> 00:15:15.692
You can counter that with actually any time I could get this any time I really wanted it.

00:15:16.501 --> 00:15:19.652
Rely on your ability to get the food that you want.

00:15:20.011 --> 00:15:21.871
When you actually want it.

00:15:22.591 --> 00:15:26.282
And then be honest to you really want fudge year-round.

00:15:26.642 --> 00:15:29.522
Or do you want one delectable piece?

00:15:29.912 --> 00:15:35.672
From your grandma's special recipe when you go and visit at Christmas time, that's when you really want it.

00:15:36.511 --> 00:15:39.481
So here's the other thing about this lie though?

00:15:40.052 --> 00:15:51.331
It's telling you that since you are at a special occasion, you should overeat, but do you really want to be uncomfortable in your body and have that digestive distress?

00:15:51.331 --> 00:15:52.412
I talked about earlier.

00:15:52.802 --> 00:15:54.121
If it's a special occasion.

00:15:54.721 --> 00:15:58.351
Do you want to be focused on your thoughts about having overeaten?

00:15:58.922 --> 00:16:00.481
If you are at your child's wedding?

00:16:01.022 --> 00:16:03.121
Or at your grandma's hundredth birthday party.

00:16:03.751 --> 00:16:06.481
If it really truly is a special occasion.

00:16:06.812 --> 00:16:12.782
Then don't we want to be as present as we can be and not have to worry about having to unbutton our pants.

00:16:13.292 --> 00:16:17.731
So really all around this lie of it's a special occasion.

00:16:17.731 --> 00:16:19.412
And so we should eat past fullness.

00:16:19.981 --> 00:16:20.822
It's just not true.

00:16:21.871 --> 00:16:22.111
All right.

00:16:22.111 --> 00:16:22.981
Number four.

00:16:23.432 --> 00:16:24.211
I love this one.

00:16:24.961 --> 00:16:26.611
I can't ever stop eating.

00:16:27.769 --> 00:16:29.239
I hear this one from clients.

00:16:29.298 --> 00:16:31.908
It's just, I just really, I never stop.

00:16:32.058 --> 00:16:33.078
I never stop eating.

00:16:33.859 --> 00:16:34.969
And I'm always like really.

00:16:35.839 --> 00:16:36.889
Are you eating right now?

00:16:38.958 --> 00:16:43.519
Like if this one is true for you and if you just heard me say, oh yeah, that's totally me.

00:16:43.548 --> 00:16:44.658
I never can stop eating.

00:16:45.379 --> 00:16:46.578
Are you eating right now?

00:16:46.609 --> 00:16:48.739
Maybe you are, maybe you're listening to this during lunch.

00:16:49.339 --> 00:16:51.769
But I know that's an exaggeration.

00:16:51.990 --> 00:16:53.730
To say like, well, obviously, like.

00:16:53.941 --> 00:16:59.370
At some point we stop, but these little lies are making a difference in your result line.

00:16:59.400 --> 00:17:00.120
I promise.

00:17:00.571 --> 00:17:03.750
And this one is a lie every single time.

00:17:04.201 --> 00:17:11.671
Well, you mean is I don't stop when I think that I should, or I don't stop at my physical enough.

00:17:12.270 --> 00:17:13.921
At that physical fullness.

00:17:14.371 --> 00:17:16.861
But it's just so disempowering to lie.

00:17:17.250 --> 00:17:19.530
About this and to say, I never stop eating.

00:17:20.010 --> 00:17:21.721
When we say we can't stop.

00:17:22.050 --> 00:17:23.671
The only way that would be true.

00:17:24.121 --> 00:17:25.951
Is if we were eating 24 hours a day.

00:17:26.911 --> 00:17:30.480
My daughter said this to me the other night as she was putting away leftovers.

00:17:30.931 --> 00:17:37.050
Which I thought was especially ironic because she wasn't even saying I can't stop until the food is gone.

00:17:37.770 --> 00:17:45.361
It was just more of a lie because there was still food available and she still at one point had decided to stop.

00:17:46.050 --> 00:17:47.131
So the truth here.

00:17:47.490 --> 00:17:52.560
Is that you are not stopping at your positive three or positive four on the hunger scale when things.

00:17:52.800 --> 00:17:53.730
Tastes so good.

00:17:53.730 --> 00:17:58.260
Or when one of those other lies come in about hardly ever get this or special occasion.

00:17:58.861 --> 00:18:05.961
But often this one comes in on a random taco Tuesday night because the chicken Tinga tacos you made were so delicious.

00:18:06.651 --> 00:18:11.030
And you're like, oh, I can't ever stop eating when I make tacos and all this guacamole.

00:18:11.030 --> 00:18:11.810
It's so good.

00:18:12.590 --> 00:18:13.671
And that's just not true.

00:18:14.151 --> 00:18:15.471
You do stop eating.

00:18:16.131 --> 00:18:17.871
Whether that's when the food has gone.

00:18:18.351 --> 00:18:22.010
Or you stop when you're overly full, but there is still food left.

00:18:22.250 --> 00:18:25.101
At some point you do stop eating.

00:18:26.040 --> 00:18:29.611
And even if you eat until the food is gone.

00:18:30.181 --> 00:18:31.560
You could make more food.

00:18:31.590 --> 00:18:34.530
There's there's always food available in this world.

00:18:35.010 --> 00:18:38.340
So get honest about when you stop.

00:18:38.701 --> 00:18:41.820
Is it when you're at a positive seven or eight on the hunger scale.

00:18:42.540 --> 00:18:46.320
Like I stopped when I'm actually just really uncomfortable.

00:18:46.530 --> 00:18:47.010
Okay.

00:18:47.401 --> 00:18:51.601
Then let's practice stopping when you're at a positive six, just bring it down.

00:18:51.631 --> 00:18:56.250
One, one notch, let yourself get somewhat full, but maybe not stuffed.

00:18:56.790 --> 00:18:57.990
Practice that for awhile.

00:18:58.351 --> 00:19:04.201
Notice at some point at every meal, when you do stop eating, what is happening in that moment?

00:19:04.800 --> 00:19:07.260
What are you thinking that makes you put your fork down?

00:19:08.101 --> 00:19:11.161
Now practice eating just until a positive five.

00:19:11.881 --> 00:19:14.611
And so on and so forth until you were practicing.

00:19:14.641 --> 00:19:18.661
Uh, stopping occasionally at that positive three or four.

00:19:18.780 --> 00:19:19.921
See what it feels like.

00:19:20.790 --> 00:19:26.191
Yes, you're going to be uncomfortable because it's going to feel weird at first, not to be overly staffed.

00:19:27.028 --> 00:19:35.238
But doing it gradually like this Can really help you get there because you will be stuck using willpower and gritting your teeth and feeling really restricted.

00:19:35.508 --> 00:19:42.387
If you go from overeating you know, if you're at a seven or eight feeling like it's very difficult to stop at every meal to.

00:19:42.867 --> 00:19:46.198
The next day, just eating too enough just to that positive three.

00:19:46.647 --> 00:19:54.178
So even though you've heard me talk about that, like, I want you to eat between the threes, wait until you're hungry at a negative three and then eat a meal to positive three.

00:19:54.508 --> 00:19:59.038
If you are consistently feeling like this as you, I just never can stop.

00:19:59.337 --> 00:20:02.278
And you're consistently eating to a 7, 8, 9.

00:20:02.728 --> 00:20:05.788
I want you to just bring it down to a six, seven.

00:20:06.298 --> 00:20:10.498
Just a little bit, just, just stop eating a little bit sooner.

00:20:11.067 --> 00:20:12.268
Not all the way to that.

00:20:12.298 --> 00:20:13.708
Positive three at first.

00:20:14.607 --> 00:20:17.518
so on this one, baby, step it down.

00:20:17.548 --> 00:20:22.468
That hunger scale, you will still feel better in your body at a positive six.

00:20:22.978 --> 00:20:24.448
Then add a positive eight.

00:20:24.778 --> 00:20:27.208
And so you will get some dopamine reward for that.

00:20:27.238 --> 00:20:29.758
You will get some motivation from that.

00:20:29.758 --> 00:20:32.337
Like, oh, I stopped at that positive six.

00:20:32.337 --> 00:20:33.178
I was full.

00:20:34.198 --> 00:20:36.057
But nothing bad happened.

00:20:36.087 --> 00:20:38.397
Maybe tomorrow I'll stop a couple bites earlier.

00:20:39.567 --> 00:20:39.988
Okay.

00:20:40.077 --> 00:20:45.038
And the last night I have for you is this one I've never been successful.

00:20:45.367 --> 00:20:46.387
In the past.

00:20:47.228 --> 00:20:51.157
So this is the trickiest of lies because it's a half-truth.

00:20:51.938 --> 00:20:59.768
You tell yourself you've never been successful in the past when what you mean is you've never succeeded at keeping the weight off.

00:21:00.248 --> 00:21:04.807
I would venture to guess that all of us have lost some weight at one time or another.

00:21:05.468 --> 00:21:06.998
I find most of my clients.

00:21:07.028 --> 00:21:09.307
And I would venture that.

00:21:09.307 --> 00:21:12.637
Most of you listeners have attempted weight loss in the past.

00:21:12.968 --> 00:21:21.637
There are studies that show women at my age have attempted between 40 and 60 diets, which counts each time you start over on a Monday air quotes, right?

00:21:22.208 --> 00:21:27.067
Um, statistics show that 56% of women have tried, tried a diet last year.

00:21:27.397 --> 00:21:34.718
So the thing is that you actually probably have lost weight, even if it was just a couple pounds, even if it was just for a couple of weeks.

00:21:35.028 --> 00:21:37.998
So it's likely not true that you've never lost weight.

00:21:38.688 --> 00:21:42.978
What might be true is that you haven't succeeded in keeping it off.

00:21:43.278 --> 00:21:44.327
So do you see how this is?

00:21:44.327 --> 00:21:46.127
Like a half-truth half-life.

00:21:46.698 --> 00:21:54.798
So, again, just getting honest is going to be what's helpful here, because if we can access those times that we have been able to lose weight.

00:21:55.248 --> 00:21:57.438
then we can approach this time.

00:21:57.798 --> 00:21:59.478
With knowledge and data.

00:22:00.048 --> 00:22:02.567
And instead of saying, I have no idea how to lose weight.

00:22:03.048 --> 00:22:07.307
If we look at our past diets and see which ones did I actually feel good on?

00:22:07.758 --> 00:22:10.847
Which one did I lose weight and also have energy.

00:22:11.268 --> 00:22:13.127
We want to avoid the ones that may be.

00:22:13.221 --> 00:22:16.701
We're cutting your intake so low that you felt sluggish and grouchy.

00:22:17.211 --> 00:22:21.201
It's also useful here to notice what you were eating on particular diets that you liked.

00:22:21.560 --> 00:22:26.961
And didn't like, I've told you before that, I still use certain recipes from diets.

00:22:26.990 --> 00:22:30.320
I was on without currently following that entire diet.

00:22:30.320 --> 00:22:34.490
Like I make a Turkey breakfast, sausage from an old south beach diet cookbook.

00:22:34.881 --> 00:22:41.901
I don't need to be on the south beach diet, which I'm not in order to like a breakfast food from that diet that worked well for me.

00:22:42.951 --> 00:22:50.750
When we get really honest with this one, it allows us to access ideas from our past that actually worked.

00:22:51.230 --> 00:22:54.681
If we shut it down with sane, I've never been successful.

00:22:55.070 --> 00:22:58.191
We won't think to look at anything we've done in the past.

00:22:58.851 --> 00:23:02.151
I promise you, there are some golden nuggets there in your diet history.

00:23:02.750 --> 00:23:08.451
And I also promise you you'll see some doozies of mistakes and you'll know what not to do this time, too.

00:23:09.050 --> 00:23:11.240
I have had every single client.

00:23:11.990 --> 00:23:13.131
That I have worked with.

00:23:13.401 --> 00:23:15.590
When we, we really work on, okay.

00:23:15.590 --> 00:23:17.300
What has worked for you in the past?

00:23:17.721 --> 00:23:19.401
They always are like, oh, you know what?

00:23:19.401 --> 00:23:20.480
I really loved.

00:23:20.961 --> 00:23:22.520
I really loved when I.

00:23:23.211 --> 00:23:24.441
XYZ fill on the blank.

00:23:24.471 --> 00:23:37.340
When I ate a salad every day for lunch, when I ate eggs for breakfast, when I started every morning with a bullet vote meal, when I used a meal delivery service, there's something that you have done that helped you lose weight in the past.

00:23:37.431 --> 00:23:38.901
Just one little thing.

00:23:39.441 --> 00:23:42.921
And I want you to be able to access this.

00:23:42.921 --> 00:23:49.461
And when you say I've never been successful in the past, You will shut down your ability to access that information.

00:23:49.881 --> 00:23:53.060
I actually did an entire episode on this particular topic.

00:23:53.090 --> 00:23:57.830
It's episode 31 accessing past diet experiences to help decide what to eat now.

00:23:57.861 --> 00:23:58.490
That's what it's called.

00:23:58.881 --> 00:24:00.861
So I'll put that link in the show notes.

00:24:01.531 --> 00:24:01.801
Okay.

00:24:01.801 --> 00:24:03.332
That's what I have for you today.

00:24:03.602 --> 00:24:09.632
Just beyond here, brain get really honest, especially when you hear thoughts that use words like always and never.

00:24:10.082 --> 00:24:11.402
Just be like really.

00:24:12.061 --> 00:24:13.412
Is that actually true?

00:24:13.771 --> 00:24:18.892
So obviously with each and every one of these, I recommended to get really honest about what's true.

00:24:18.892 --> 00:24:26.721
So if you hear other lies in your brain, Just try to get really honest and say, okay, what, what is actually the truth here?

00:24:27.194 --> 00:24:30.674
If you're wanting to get started on working on.

00:24:30.974 --> 00:24:35.355
Your thoughts about weight loss, as well as figuring out exactly what to eat.

00:24:35.384 --> 00:24:38.234
Honestly, the best way to do that this month is by snagging.

00:24:38.505 --> 00:24:45.853
One of those free food planning sessions with me, like I said, there's just six left out of the 10 that I had originally offered.

00:24:45.853 --> 00:24:50.623
So be sure to get that scheduled today, link of course, is in the show notes.

00:24:50.968 --> 00:24:52.768
Thanks again for listening today to the eat.

00:24:52.768 --> 00:24:55.917
Well think well live well podcast, and I'll talk to you next week.