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This is the Eat Well Think Well Live Well podcast.
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I'm Lisa Salisbury and this is episode 155.
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Mindset Plus Medications and Surgery for Weight Loss with Dr.
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Pavi Kal.
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My guest today is Dr.
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Pbi Kde.
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He is a general and laparoscopic surgeon who specializes in minimally invasive surgeries like keyhole surgery.
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He's a diplomat of the American Board of Obesity Medicine, which is a designation showing his expertise in obesity medicine.
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This is a prestigious designation that very few surgeons in Canada hold.
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He has been a member of the Department of Surgery at William Osler Health System since 2012 and is the site chief of General Surgery at Brampton Civic Hospital.
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He is an assistant professor of surgery at Toronto Metropolitan University.
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Dr.
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Kundal also has a clinical interest in surgical and nonsurgical weight loss, and has completed numerous postgraduate courses in this area.
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Today we discussed Dr.
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Al's belief that one's mindset plays a critical role in health and healthy weight maintenance.
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We dive into mindset shift techniques such as mindfulness, affirmation, gratitude, meditation, and self-reflection through journaling that play a key role in changing your relationship with food.
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It's an honor to have such an expert as Dr.
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Kal here with me today, so please enjoy this episode.
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Welcome to eat well.
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Well, the podcast for busy women who want to lose weight without constantly counting, tracking, or stressing over every bite.
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I'm Lisa Salsbury, a certified health weight loss and life coach, and most importantly, a recovered chronic dieter here.
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You'll learn to listen to your body and uncover the reasons you're reaching for food.
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When you're not truly hungry, freeing you to focus on a healthier, more fulfilling approach to eating.
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welcome back to the Eat Well Think Well Live Well podcast.
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I am so excited to have Dr.
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Pavi Kundal here.
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He is a board certified obesity medicine surgeon and um, I think there's some other titles in there as well.
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I'm gonna let him introduce himself.
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I'm just so excited to speak with you today about, um, some of the weight loss solutions that you offer and get a different perspective.
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So welcome Dr.
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Kundal.
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And, um, if you could just introduce yourself and give us some background.
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Thank you for inviting me on your podcast.
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It's a real pleasure.
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Um, so my name is, uh, Dr.
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Al.
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I'm a practicing in the greater Toronto in.
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I have a clinical interest in obesity medicine and also perform bariatric surgery.
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I've been in practice for over 16 years.
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I performed thousands of surgical procedures and I've had, uh, thousands of patients come through my clinic and we've helped them with both surgical and non-surgical weight loss.
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Um, I have three children, uh, so it's quite busy.
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I have a 8-year-old, a 6-year-old, and 3-year-old.
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Um, yeah, so I got my heads full of both at work and at home, but, uh, I do enjoy it all.
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Um, what I found through my clinical practice.
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Over the years is when I started, my focus mainly was on, you know, obviously the technical aspects, uh, the science, the guidelines.
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And what I found though over time was that, uh, there was often a high rate of weight regain regardless of the different techniques we used.
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And over time, I've, you know, I started to see that despite our best efforts, there were things that were causing patients to go back to their unhealthy eating practices in the past.
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That made me realize that we have to not just focus on the, you know, quote unquote the science.
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We also have to focus on, you know, the individual, the person, what has kind of led them to, you know, this point where they need to make changes and how to identify those factors.
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Um, and one of the things that, um, I found was that, um, you know, in the beginning, sometimes, for example, after surgery, the surgery is, you know, uh, it's a very invasive thing.
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Um, it can, you know, compensate for a lot of things, but over time you can develop strategies to almost, quote unquote beat the surgery.
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And you need to try to understand what is causing people to kind of revert back, um, to their, um, previous eating patterns.
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And that's where I think the mindset comes in.
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It's very important to understand.
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Um, what, what, you know, often when people are, you know, having eating pattern are not good for them.
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It's not, it's not so much that it's that they're just making bad choices.
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They're, it's sometimes compensating for underlying reasons and you need to sort of understand what they are.
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And that's where I think it's very important, um, to introduce the concept of mindfulness in your life in general, but also the concept of mindful eating.
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And, uh, that's something that I've tried to stress my patients.
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yeah, definitely.
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It's like how my intro says, we try and figure out why we're eating when we're not hungry, and it's so much more important than what you're actually eating on some cases.
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You know, like when you figure out what you're trying to solve for.
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When hunger is not the problem, that's when we really get down to like the root of the issue.
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so whether your patients choose a surgical route, a medication route, or a, just a coaching sort of route, like a lot of my clients.
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Stew and I don't like, I've been kind of shying away from using the term, um, losing weight naturally because I think people are pitting, like those that use surgery or medication against those that do it naturally and, and kind of putting the quote unquote natural weight on a pedestal, which I don't agree with at all.
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I think there's a lot of ways to do it, but I, I'm just not sure what the right term is now.
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But anyway, um, without medication I guess would be just the simplest, but in any case.
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Everyone needs to figure out how we eat for the long term.
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because once you get down to your goal weight or natural weight, then we have to figure out, okay, how do I make this stick?
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one of the things that I try to do is help them to lose the weight the way they want to live their lives.
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So I have patience or not patience.
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You have patience.
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I have clients.
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Um, I have clients that I ask, they're like, you know, I just, I just need, I just gotta get off sugar.
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They tell me this, you know, I just, I just eat too much sugar.
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And I say, okay, well, do you wanna never eat sugar again in your whole life?
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Or do you wanna figure out how to eat sugar?
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How to have a, a sweet treat every once in a while without overdoing it?
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And almost without fail, they choose the second option, which means we have to have.
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A way to eat a little something, what they call, you know, a tree or sweet while you're losing weight.
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And I think that is where the mindset comes in.
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So let's discuss some of those mind, that's just like one example, but some of the strategies that you use to introduce some of this mindful eating that you teach to your patients.
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Yeah, that's a really good point.
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Um, when you're trying to change your eating patterns, in some ways it's one of the most, um, uh, challenging areas to work on because unlike, let's say, you're, uh, having struggled.
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With alcohol or you're struggling with, uh, drugs or gambling, you can go cold Turkey on those things.
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You can say that I'm
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Yeah.
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gonna drink again.
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I'm not gonna smoke, I'm not gonna, whatever it may be.
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You can't stop eating, you have to eat the live.
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So that's what makes this particularly challenging because you just, you have to find that way to moderate, like you said, it's not realistic to say that I'm never gonna have a treat again.
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And so I think, um, what I do is I try to educate my patients about understanding the reasons why they're eating at any given moment.
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So really being present.
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So I think the first thing we teach them is the difference between physical hunger.
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And emotional hunger.
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Those are two very different things.
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So physical hunger is when you, your body actually needs energy or needs calories to fuel its functions.
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So it, you may be feeling that feeling in your stomach.
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Lightheaded, I.
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You haven't eaten in six hours, um, you can't concentrate.
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Those are signs that your body's, uh, signaling to your, your brain signal to your body that actually need to eat.
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And now emotional hunger often just, it can be triggered immediately.
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It's often caused by situations that I think people are aware of.
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So I.
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I've entered a social gathering, I'm nervous.
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Um, I'm not sure what to do.
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I'm not sure if anyone's gonna talk to me.
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So you kind of head over to the food table and it just kind of seems like a natural thing to do, or, you know, I've gotten into an argument with someone and I, I want to have that immediate feeling of, you know, satisfaction.
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So it's often triggered by emotions.
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So those are different feelings.
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Now,
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noticed
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what happens, sorry, go ahead.
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Do.
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Do you notice Another trigger that I think is so common people don't, but they don't identify, is transitions.
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When you come home from work, when you beca, when you go from working mom to.
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Mom at home, like when you change roles, it's very uncomfortable for our brain and this is why we grab a snack to go get in the car or why we go to the kitchen immediately upon entering our house.
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Or you, it can also be like when you get to work, you have to go to the break room first to like load up on the snacks or, you know what I mean?
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It's, it's those transition times that people don't realize.
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'cause it's not like supercharged, like walking into that social situation where you're like very nervous.
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It's just this weird like, um, discomfort of switching roles, and I think that's an interesting emotion time as well to catch.
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For sure and, and I think also a lot of our eating habits are unconscious and they're learned.
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So sometimes, you know, we, I.
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We, we have distracted eating.
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So, uh, when you're distracted, you're not actually being present or mindful.
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So if you decide that I'm going to eat dinner in front of the tv, you're being distracted by what's on the screen and you're not actually being present or mindful of how your body's reacting to your food.
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So sometimes you'll be watching a movie or a show, and when it ends.
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You have that feeling like, oh, I overate and you didn't even realize it happened.
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And so these are kind of, and then you have that feeling, oh, I shouldn't have eaten as much.
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And, and, but it just was that you weren't being mindful, you weren't being present while you're eating.
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So we, that's one of the things we stress to our patients is you want to be an intentional eater.
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You want to be a conscious eater, you wanna understand why you're eating at this moment in time.
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So for example, we tell our pa, you know, we tell people, uh, you know, if they're gonna go for a meal, the first question we ask is ask yourself, am I really hungry?
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And just putting that simple question and waiting 10 to 15 seconds, sometimes it can stop you when you're realize I'm actually not hungry right now.
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Maybe I don't need to eat, or I don't need that snack.
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So just kind of, you know, so like you talked about the transitions where you kind of just had this unconscious behavior, just kind of do it.
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It's sort of being present, trying to really understand why you're doing what you're doing, and, uh, just by, you know, almost having that circuit breaker, it can stop those, you know, those, those practices that you've been having for years.
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so that's a good start.
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So we just stop, ask ourselves like, okay, am am I really hungry?
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So then obviously the, we've got a flow chart here, like if the answer's yes, then we eat, and the answer's no.
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Then what if you still feel that urge or that pull towards the kitchen?
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Right, so.
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So we talk about, you know, the first thing is your environment.
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So you need to kind of do an environmental scan, the quote unquote, we live in this kind of weight enabling environment where we know we make things very easy to consume food and sometimes not high quality food.
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So if you determine you're not hungry, what I often tell patients to do is, or if you're not sure, just drink a glass of water.
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Sometimes it's just dehydration that's making you actually feel like you're hungry.
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And sometimes just having that feeling of consuming something makes that feeling go away.
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Um, the other thing I sometimes suggest is a lot of it's distraction to kind of changing the direction that your mind is in.
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Um, so one of the other techniques you can use is, you know, you can just go for a walk.
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I.
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Can do.
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We also promote meditation, so you can do, like, you don't have to sit down for 20 minutes in a quiet room and do meditation, but you can kind of introduce deep breathing, sitting down for 30 seconds.
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Really try to understand what's driving you at this moment in time that where you're starting to think about something stressful at work and then all of a sudden that would, that's been your, um, what that's been, what your go-to is when you start having that stress, maybe you go for a snack trying to really kind of be present and understand what's driving you.
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And let's go back to that social situation, example.
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So.
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You walk in, you're like pretty nervous, not really a time you can go for a walk, not really a time you can meditate.
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What would you suggest in those kind of trickier situations or you know, at work where you maybe don't have that freedom to do those kinds of things?
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I.
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Yeah, so I think that goes back to, um, social settings or social events.
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Often patients will be on these.
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calorie restricted diets.
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For example, they may be taking a meal replacement product or you know, whatever it may be, and then all of a sudden now they have to go to a wedding or a birthday party.
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And I have seen over the years that can sometimes really throw someone off the progress they're making because you kind of.
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You've been very disciplined.
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You've been avoiding certain trigger foods, and now all of a sudden you're in this social situation.
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So I think when you know you're gonna go into those environments, you actually need to think about it before you go.
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So let's say, you know, I'm going to a wedding.
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Okay.
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I.
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The first thing is you need to realize it's not gonna be one of these perfect food days.
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You have to accept that.
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You gotta first tell yourself, I'm gonna try my best.
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You have to accept that you may actually eat more than you're expecting just because of the social setting and the environment.
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And that's okay to, you know, like I always say, we're not aiming for perfection or even for more good days than bad days.
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So you gotta be kind of, kind to yourself reasonable.
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Um, the next thing is you gotta kind of think about your strategy.
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Okay.
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If I am going to, you know, if I'm on a meal replacement program or something and now I'm gonna have to, you know, quote unquote eat regular food, what's my strategy?
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So what I usually tell patients is think about what you're actually going to eat ahead of time.
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So, you know, you kind, if you visualize and think about it, you're more likely to do it.
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Then when the the time comes, you're not gonna have that, um, pressure to make a decision'cause you've already thought it through.
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So you might say, I'm not gonna feed the breads.
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With the appetizer, I'm gonna just have a salad and maybe a lean piece of chicken if it's available.
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I'm not gonna consume liquid calories, you know?
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Or if I do, I'm gonna only have half a glass of wine.
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I'm not gonna, you know, so you have to kind of understand those.
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And sometimes what I tell people too is if you really are feeling stressed out, overwhelmed.
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Go to the washroom, give yourself a break, 30 seconds, a couple of minutes, kind of collect your thoughts.
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And also, sometimes it's not unreasonable, like you have to do what's good for you.
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If you have to leave a little bit early, that's fine too.
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You know, you not, don't be rude, but sometimes you don't need the STA till one in the morning.
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Maybe you leave at 10.
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You, you, you came, you, you enjoyed yourself, you met your friends and family.
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Maybe that's it for you.
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So you, you kind of have to have an approach where social settings can really.
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Um, it puts a lot of pressure on you sometimes also you think everyone's watching what you're doing and then you're like, oh, maybe you know, my aunt's thinking I'm not eating or something's wrong.
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And the reality is people are, and people are consumed with themselves.
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And you know, I try to tell that to people too.
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Uh, people are more interested in their own lives.
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They have their own things they're worried about.
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They're actually not paying that much attention to what you're doing.
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So don't let that be, you know, a self-created stressor.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, definitely.
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I love that, that that sounds like exactly like a worksheet I teach, which is decisions ahead of time.
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There's so many decisions that you can make ahead that have, um, even when you don't know the menu, just like you said, you can decide ahead if you're going to eat the appetizer or not, regardless of what the appetizer is.
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You can just decide if you're going to, and um, are you going to have the wedding cake or not?
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And, you know, making not only a food plan, but a drink plan as well in those social, social situations is also super critical because once we start in with the alcohol, sometimes the food plan can go by the wayside if we don't follow, follow the alcohol plan.
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So it's kind of, you know, making those, all of those decisions.
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Totally.
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Yeah.
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It's just making those decisions ahead.
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It can just go a really, really long way.
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Um, and like you said, other people are often, you know, thinking more about themselves and I find that this is also a great decision to make ahead is who do I wanna connect with?
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Especially when you're talking about a wedding, a birthday party, these are people that you know, you know, and if it's a work function, maybe you wanna network with a particular person.
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Like think about not just the food, but.
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The people, because after all, that's why we go to these things.
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And so if we can shift our focus, like make some food decisions ahead and then let that go and think, who have I not seen in a while?
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Who do I really wanna talk to?
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Whose kids do I wanna ask about?
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And think about those kinds of things people do love.
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To be asked.
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Right?
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They, and when, if you're overly focused on your body and your food, you're not going to remember to ask about that person's child that maybe just started college, right?
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Like, there's interesting things to talk about that are so much more interesting than your weight, right?
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It's, it's so, it's so the least interesting thing about you and, um, very few people are going to notice what you're eating if, if at all.
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Correct.
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And I think those are, a lot of the, ideas we have in our head are often self-imposed.
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They're actually not based in reality.
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They're just things that we've thought up in ourselves and.
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Fears we create in our, in our own heads, but in reality they, they're not there.
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And I think realizing that, and sometimes, you know, one important thing I think also is to kind of do the post-mortem after the social event.
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See what actually happened.
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You know, if you had some I, you know, anxieties or stressors, and then you realize they actually didn't materialize, that sometimes is very informative too, is like you kind of realize, you know, I had these, you know, fears.
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And they, people were happy to see me.
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Nobody was really concerned with what I was doing.
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It kind of, it's empowering when you realize that after.
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Yeah, for sure.